Color me Red

I wanted to find out what if anything your favorite color says about you. My mother in law is a very hard person to handle and I think her obsession with the color purple may have something to do with it.

Well, my favorite color, RED, says everything about me:
RED – This is the color of extroversion, of a person with desire, appetite, a will to live life fully. You are somewhat aggressive, impulsive, perhaps athletic, surely quick to release your feelings and emotions. You have many ups and downs in your feelings.
To you, life is meant to be happy, and when it isn’t, you are  confused and upset. You hate monotony, are quick to judge people, quick to form opinions and boldly express them. (Source: http://weeklyworldnews.com/headlines/12653/favorite-color-reveals-personality-type/ )

I have to admit that displays many of my strengths and weaknesses, especially about my opinions and my constant need to express them.

And here is what GREEN says about my husband:
GREEN - You are sure to be constant in your ways, persevering, sensible and respectable. You have a good balance. Outspoken, with a love of freedom, those who like green are generally social and live in a good neighborhood, have many friends and belong to social organizations. You tend to resist change. You like parties and you like to eat – and may usually be on a diet.
Your social standing, financial position and reputation are all of top importance to you. You constantly seek affirmation of companionship and affection. (Same source as above)

I see some of my husband here but not as much as mine was, but the resistance to change and the love of freedom which sometimes manifests itself in rebellion when he perceives anyone to be telling him what to do, even if it isn't actually the case. He is also very particular about what he eats but he does love food.

Here is what it says about PURPLE now:
PURPLE – Two types of people like purple. The first is sensitive, with deep insight, temperamental and creative with meaningful things to do and passionate devotion to them. The second type admires artists, mystics and unique people. This type feels there should be gentility, courtesy and affection everywhere, and no war, disease or poverty.
Some lovers of purple are charming and adoring patrons of the arts and others are true artists themselves.

She is the first type, but I am not sure she has deep insight but she is very sensitive and extremely temperamental, but she does not seem to have deep insight or any desire to be artistic.

Another website was really off so maybe her favorite color doesn't explain her personality, I hoped it would give me some insight to better deal with her craziness but I guess I have no such luck ... Anyone following my blogs feel free to comment with any info that might help me with my monster in law.

Taken for Granted

This emotion is my constant struggle. I am a stay at home mom and I enjoy it. I really do. I have held great jobs, I am educated but given this recent chance to stay home with my children has been the biggest blessing I could ever ask for. I have my chores I do daily and the school work I do with the kids since we can home school with me home full time. I love to cook and enjoy when people enjoy what I have made for dinner as I make a lot of unique dinners that appeal to the masses and I do it healthier.

But what drives me batty is when, since the weather was less than favorable tonight my mother in law stays and is nothing more than someone taking up space and eating my food and scolding my children incorrectly. I spend over an hour highlighting her hair (all of the supplies I paid for), then cleaning up after it to turn around and spend another two hours making dinner to have not one of the other 3 adults helping out with the cleaning. Really? No one felt it was worth pitching in by washing the dishes after dinner?

I have tried asking my husband to talk to her about pitching in but he just hushes me. It is more than a little frustrating, how can no one see that I am worth helping out? I mean she owes us hundreds of dollars and yet has the audacity to buy things without regret and have them shipped to our house. When she stays here even if it is without notice expects me to provide meals for her without offering to help with groceries or house work and wonders why I don't like talking to her. I cannot swallow my frustration much longer. I matter too...

2 for 1 Margaritas

Today I must admit to having the best family! While they may not always be perfect they know when I need them to be better than normal and today was just such a day.

It started off pretty normal, at least going to the gym used to be normal, but since I am on the mend from a separated rib it was my first day back in full force, and yes, I feel it. Then a great day of gymnastics for the oldest, he is doing a million times better listening in class than even just last week and I am impressed to see the increase in his balance and strength on the bars and floor exercises.

But the best part of the day was when my husband came home early and while today wasn't as hoped for business he wanted to have a nice night out with the family and Tuesday means 2 for 1 Margaritas at our favorite Mexican restaurant. I love eating there because it reminds me of the kind of food my grandpa used to make when I was a kid. Plus a strong mixed drink can really make a woman's day.

While my stress still resides in my home it was so nice to just get a night away knowing I do not have to do the dishes before bed.

Finally an Outlet

I always wanted a way to say what was on my mind without fear of what anyone else has to say or how it will affect them. I'll admit, I can be a bitch but usually for good reason. All my life I have kept these darker feelings inside to keep them from hurting others or pushing others further away.

So, on my mind today is the stress I am feeling and the regret of opening my family's home to my husband's cousin and her daughter. I get along great with, Nicky, and I thought her daughter would be a great playmate for our children. She was being evicted and she lived in a rural community that had no jobs that would pay more than minimum wage. We have been blessed and try to do what we can for those who need it, but these have been some of the hardest few weeks ever!

Her daughter is a monster! and worse, now that they have been here for a month, they stopped helping out around the house on a regular basis. I sure hope she makes enough money working for my husband that her and her monster can move out and be something soon, I am not sure how long I can tolerate this blatant disrespect for the rules her daughter displays. Here's hope for the future.